Changing Anytime Any Place Anything
Author - Chris Anderon
Sometimes, We limit ourselves with limiting thoughts and end up creating problems. However, it's important to remember that many of the problems we create for ourselves are imaginary. And all it takes is some imagination to create the solutions. So here's a personal view about how I have used NLP in my life to gain that extra piece of confidence. And an effective way of controlling your thinking for a change and taking back control to challenge old beliefs that may no longer be serving you.
There was a time when I lacked confidence in one particular area of my life. Whenever I attended parties or nightclubs, I would find it challenging to get up on my own and dance, let alone with anyone whenever asked. I would feel awkward and scared, constantly telling myself that others were laughing at me and that I looked foolish. Then one night, not long after buying and using a Self-hypnosis video on confidence and a self-help book with some NLP life-changing strategies, during a fifteen-minute taxi ride with some friends to a charity event, I decided to apply some of the techniques that I had learned on an unconscious level from that video combined with a simple yet powerful bit of NLP long before I had become a practitioner.
As I rode in the taxi, I began to notice those feelings of fear creeping in, to notice how my focus had gone onto thinking about dancing in public. Then I got to thinking. How could I possibly get rid of these nagging and painful feelings? So I closed my eyes and visualized the venue we were heading to. Then In my mind's eye, I saw myself on the dance floor, and in my head was hearing amazing disco music playing loudly. I added more vibrant colours to a 360-degree movie playing in my head and all around me, and that scene was a lot bigger and brighter. I saw myself confidently dancing and moving to the beat of the music with my friends, smiling and having a great time. My friends congratulated me on how well I was doing, and others on the dance floor complimented me on how happy I looked and heard them saying, "Well done!" Although I didn't swing anyone around by their legs in some comedy movie, It felt amazing, and even more so as I added lots more detail to that movie while I was watching myself effortlessly dancing with some cool moves. I began to experience exhilarating sensations rippling through my body. I made the disco music louder and the whole picture brighter to enhance the scene, making it even more thrilling, having an even more amazing time, and feeling those great feelings. Then I stepped into that new confidant and a happier me to have that experience with everything I had been watching on the outside through my own eyes, those people standing around the dance floor and those nearby smiling at me. By the end of that fifteen-minute journey, I stepped out of that taxi a different person, as I would discover later that evening.
At the charity event that night, I was sitting at a table and observing the crowd when a friend approached me and asked for a dance. I didn't hesitate and joined them on the dance floor. As the music filled the room, feeling the beat of the bass through that floor without even thinking about my past dancing challenge, I just danced with my friend and felt an overwhelming sense of joy. My friend noticed my newfound confidence and commented on how happy I looked. They even mentioned that they could never get me up to dance in the past before. It was a fun and fantastic experience.
During a brief taxi ride, I used a simple Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique to rewire and reframe a perception of a previously daunting situation. So often, we generate problems and complications that stem from our imagination. My way of approaching a challenging situation and a limiting belief was to imagine a future version of myself that wasn't focusing on what I thought I couldn't do and created the solution by seeing myself in a future time and place filled with joy to creating an experience of seeing, feeling, and hearing what I would and could experience—and trying on that new person with those newly found great feelings and success for size by stepping into that person while living an experience through my eyes. I had successfully conquered my fear of dancing in public, which was altering the Neurochemistry in my brain to mix and serve up a cocktail of happiness with feelings of courage to become a more confident, happier person. And all it took was some creative imagination to create the solution. I became the person that I wanted to become and could believe in. And with that learning came that I could change anytime, any place, and anything.
To your Success.